Who are we? Initially, we’re unintentional lemmings. What does this mean? We’re conditioned from childhood to ‘conform’ to societies’ expectations or else suffer the consequences. Many of us carry this worldview into young adulthood and beyond. Author, Darcey Kesner Hawkins, can relate as she put herself on the back burner, putting others before her as she whole heartedly embraced the roles of daughter, wife, mother, and grandmother to remembering she is much more. Remembering she is a multi-faceted person with gifts, talents, and purpose. With heartbreaking honesty Darcey shares of striving for perfection in an imperfect culture, self-limiting beliefs, care taking her elderly mother, raising teenage grandchildren essentially from birth, divorce, and ultimately her epiphany moment to make a stand to live her truth. Her model of self-discovery, the struggle to hold fast to one’s identity and dismissal of self-limiting beliefs is the foundation for readers to find and keep their authentic self in face of societal demands to conform.